Category: Dating and Relationships
Hi
I know relationships have been formed from here as in this community so that is not what this is about, would you ever go on dating websites or look at the personals section of other websites and do you think this is safe?
any feedback appreciated
thanks
pisces
Well, Pisces, I believe that online dating can be what you make it.
I mean, if you take time out to get to know that person as best you can, you have a better chance at being safe.
Be it online dating, telephone dating or meeting someone in a club, you still have to take the necessary precautions to stay safe.
Debbie
well its all about you if you don't mign dating some one on the computer ore in person!!! as for me i met my girl on the phone line!!!! and if i had to do it over again i would do it
Well its not the most romantic way to do it, over the computer i mean i mean i've never done it i'm just interested in what people think.
hope people will write more here
pisces
I talked to wildebrew a lot on this site before meeting him and i couldn't be happier with our relationship.
I believe like someone said before dating is what you make it. I will say though I will not say I love you to someone I have never met and do not believe you can fall for someone over a phone. It takes meeting and knowing them on a personal level for that kind of bond to be established
I don't think the medium of communication is important. It's what you do with it that matters. Just cause you meet someone physically doesn't mean that that person is necessarily nice, genuin and so on.
Be careful, regardless of the method. If it's online, in a club or whatever, always be careful.
And who's to judge if and when a person should or shouldn't say that they love someone? It's funny how people can say that they hate so and so or even not like them at all, even though they haven't met the person in real life but, when it comes to saying that they care or that they love, it seems a bit difficult, hay?
well love's a very tricky thing and i guess peple are just afraid of getting hurt and the possibility of that is increased somewhat if the inicial communication isn't physical and one may build up a picture of someone and then find out that what they had pictured is a milion miles away from reality thats what people would be afraid of i guess
pisces
Hmm. I think after a while you can form instincts about people that you've met online. I've met a few people online first and then in person, and while sometimes there was more to them than I knew just from talking to them online, you can still get a pretty good idea about what people are like without meeting them in person. But that's just me. Some people may not be able to develop these instincts as much. Just as with anything else in life you can be too cautious or too wreckless in your dicisions and actions. It's finding the balance and what works or doesn't work for you more than anything else. Not sure that made any sense, but those are my thoughts.
personally, i wouldn't date anyone online because you never know what someone is capable of.
love is blind. I don't think if we are cautious and and both are truthful, and giving a good time for understanding, online dating is wrong.
I heard several LDR went with success. we cannot consider only few ffailures or fraudulants here in the net, you see. everywhere there are plus and minus and positive and negatives. so we have to be bit careful with handling things, after all.
This is a really interesting subject. I have personally done the online dating thing successfully, and believe that while you need to exercise more caution when meeting people online, if you can find someone with whom you feel a true connection, it's worth it.
It strange that people who've never met each other will say their dating. They should just say they're committed to each other but even still can you commit to someone you haven't met. I guess it depends on how easy it is for one to fall for someone they haven't met. Whether on line, or threw the phone, or in my grand parent's day, threw pen pals and news paper adds, all that does is hook you up with the person. You still have to complete the puzzle by getting beyond regular correspondents to physically being together. So if you meet someone that's the issue if anything. Where you met them and how seem to be secondary. Even if it's a fuckin prison, or at some bar, once you're away from that and with each other, that's the test. So I say keep searching. Obviously if you're using internet or some other communication shit, it's going to save you from doing some foot work so why not? have a it
Hmm, interesting subject indeed...I've had the face to face relationships...Thought I knew them very well, and it turned out I didn't. Friends and potential mate alike have let me down when it has been soully face to face...On the other hand, I met my husband on a chat site that use to be around...Back in 96/97, and we're still together today. The site was called "FireFly", and it was accessible; though it went to crap...However, that's another topic all together. My husband and I started out chatting as friends, and then feelings evolved. Yes, he told me he loved me before we met face to face...Told me on the computer and we'd only talked on the phone once or twice, and despite the ups and downs we're still together and I love him more and more every day. The over all rule to my way of thinking is: Be careful; no matter how your looking for that special someone. We first met face to face with my family present. By the way, in my opinion this topic could be extended to friendships too. Going on some theories here...How can you call someone you only know online a true friend? If you don't know them face to face (AKA physically) how can you truly know if they're a friend? I'm not ashamed to say this: true friendship to involves love; (the kind without sex generally, however, for some it involves that too), but yet we're unafraid to make online friends? Hmm, interesting.
I've often wondered about the voice over the phone or the person behind the screen. Others would say that it's impossible to have any feelings for just a voice over the phone and such. I think with networking you slowly become involved and maybe attached to that voice and therefore you could fall in love with them. You're relying on words mostly to decide whether they're any good for you. How they treat you and what they say is real important. You have to take a lot in to face value. Some could say that someone threw the phone or computer how they behave can reflect on the way they really are in person. That may be true to some extent and then you may find out that when you meet them they're not what you thought. I guess you have to take a gamble sometimes and let you feelings be the guide. That's worked in many ways good and bad for lots of people. Because threw a medium people can get carried away especially if they like to roll play. Sometimes by taking someone at face value that might conceal somethings you could be shocked learning later.
But isn't that the case no matter how you meet someone? At least in my experience it has been and still is.
I don't like online dating sites. Maybe as an adult, it's a better idea, but if you're under 18, you shouldn't do it. I think there's too many creepy people floating around oout there trying to hurt kids who are vulnerable, maybe they're lonely and looking for attention from someone, and the "attention" they receive online is flattering. As people get older, though, they have more experience and knowledge that helps protect them from those kind of people. But even then, I still think you have to be careful. Also, I think online love can be an illusion of the real thing. I think you have to build a relationship based on the physical chemistry people feel when they're together. But, if those 2 people start out as friends on the Internet, and then progress to the next level once they meet in person, that's not a problem. But I agree with the person who said you shouldn't say you love someone before you meet them. I think the strong feelings you might mistake for love at the time are a product of who you think that person is, but what if you meet them, and find out that they're not who they appear to be on the computer? I think people are a lot more talkative when they're online, not to mention more open, because it's easier to type and share your secrets with people who aren't standing in front of you. I think it's a good idea to take online relationships very slowly and see what happens from there. If something develops after meeting in person, then yeah, it's safe to continue the relationship online and in any other way possible. I think this would avoid a lot of disappointment if one person respects something the other person can't provide in real life, and sometimes it pays to be cautious.
I think, that online dating is nonsense if you aren't talking to someone, who is from your locality - at least neighbouring country.
I think, that it's nonsense dating me and some for example girl from Asia or something like that. I can't date with somebody without meeting her physically.
I agree. You shouldn't date someone if there's no chance of actually meeting them in person, or if there is, the hassle would be too big, and definitely, if you lived in 2 different countries, that would be nearly impossible, and therefore not worth it.
I think it's fine to meet them on a site, but I don't agree with the dating sites.